You don’t tend to hear many people ask this question out loud. You may think it, but have you ever had a deep meaningful conversation about it? You may be surprised what you learn about yourself just from engaging with that topic. Maybe when you were a child you wanted to be a hairdresser or a gardener, perhaps it was a dentist or a doctor. You may not have ended up doing what you intended to do because of fear of failure or lack of confidence, or even stereotyping and sex discrimination.  Maybe money may have been a barrier. Either way, many rarely do what their heart desires because of invisible "restraints". 

If you look back on your life have you felt that you always gave more and cared more, and never felt it was the same for you in return? You see that people can be selfish and generally it’s because they are emotionally wounded, unloved and unable to reciprocate. Many people who meet these individuals are often empaths and attract these wounded souls in order to help them on their path in life and inflict karma on them (whatever type of karma necessary will be delivered) to hopefully learn a lesson.

It’s safe to say that no matter what your job is, if you even have a job, it is really irrelevant as long as you do what makes you happy and fulfilled, you are happy in yourself and feel grateful for what you have. your soul or life purpose is being met and you are on the right track. Namaste..💚

Samantha  

Have you asked yourself, do I really want someone in my life, or do I just feel I cannot live without somebody?   Have you learned to like your own company? Do you love and respect yourself?  Do you keep attracting the same kind of person, someone who is needy and you ended up doing all the giving while they took way more than they gave in return.   A relationship should be based on trust and love, and how do we know we are going to get that when first getting involved with someone again?  Simple, you don't. It's a risk, and many won't get involved in relationships now because they don't want to get hurt again.  Perhaps you need to work on your inner self and let go of the things that are holding you back.

Remember that graze you got on your knee when you were five, it healed didn't it.   Emotional scars are much the same you just don't see them.

So if you have reached this sentence and you are still sitting there thinking, "yep, I'm ready" but it still hasn't happened, have you thought about:-

Changing your routine/working hours

Shopped somewhere different
 Joined a group/gym/club --go  out instead of  watching TV

 Striking up a conversation with a stranger
Changing your wardrobe/ losing some weight, get a  new hairstyle.  There's loads of things you can do, and will immediately it may not lead to a new partnership, it will at least put you in a different mindset and attract you new and interesting things.  

Remember the vibration you put out is what you attract back.  People like confident people, and that's one thing to remember in the attraction game, and 99.9% of people are not going to find a mate, on the internet.

And lastly, sometimes it's all just about timing, and that's another topic altogether.

Make the most of your time while you are still single, and be in a good place in your head when you do meet someone so you hopefully don't repeat meeting the same kind of ex all over again!

There aren't too many people sadly who can say they've never experienced some kind of unpleasant situation at work.  How do you deal with it when it's ongoing?

1) Doing nothing is not an option because it simply breeds more animosity, resentment and even anxiety.  Speak to your line manager, if they're no good (and it might even be them that's the issue) go one above.  If you feel that isn't something you can do, perhaps you need to confront the person about what it is that's the issue.

2)  Have you considered that this perhaps isn't the right place for you? That the saying "if you can't beat them join them" should be ignored and you perhaps would be better avoiding them altogether by applying for a new position?  The office can be a battlefield, with people competing for attention, promotion, bringing their personal problems into work with them and using their position of "supervisor" to intimidate others.  If it appears to be an ongoing thing, you either confront-or leave.

3)  People have their own way of doing things, and if you are happy to work in a place where a head office decides how everything is done, and everyone agrees to working the same way, to the same principles and values, everyone knows what they are doing and can focus on working as a team.

For some of us however, we remain as individuals, as creatives, as leaders, as people who want to be left alone to do our own thing, to not answer to anybody.  

It's up to you to decide what kind of employment suits you, remember you have a CHOICE.

You may have read my other article on Bad behaviour in the workplace.. one way to improve matters either at home or at work, if you are in a fixed place eg shop or office is to introduce a few measures to balance things out.

1) Reduce the amount of technology you use.  Using paper and pen is better for the mind and soul and is more personal.  It saves money.  It saves energy.  Technology especially mobile phones are counter-productive, they are a distraction and off-putting when a customer walks in to your store.  

2)  Introduce more plants and natural products.  Removing plastic items changes the energy and bringing in plants enhances air quality and makes people feel happier.  It can also create a conversation that is a distraction from work matters that often don't need discussing.

3) Classical music has been proven to disperse anti-social behaviour.  Music changes people's moods.  If you have music at work, think about the stuff that comes out of the speakers, is it happy positive stuff or does it make you feel angry?  

Lastly, if you are able, take your pet to work!!

If I tell you about my own experiences from being small to teenage years it may give you some idea whether the child you have in mind has what I would describe as "their own ideas :)"

As a child I would constantly pester my parents with questions that probably drove them mad.

"What happens if I die will I come back as someone else"

"What was I before I was born"

And other mind blowing questions.  

Other things like:-

Seeing animals/scary creatures on the wall of my bedroom when nothing was there.

Being very aware of dangerous situations from an early age, as a child my father took us all to Northern Ireland for a holiday (as one does during a major conflict) and I remember saying to him "can we go please they are going to shoot us" He asked why and I said "because we have english number plates" ... he didn't say much but I worked out I was only three or four at the time.  To know what was going on, and sense this at that age really tells me now that I have had this higher empathic sense all my life, and as I have grown older more things have added to the list, clairvoyance, clairaudient,seeing spirits and so on. 

In childhood, imaginary friends, excellent story writing skills and creativity are often a good indicator.  If they are interested in art work let them do it till their heart's content. 

I would be quite indignant if I wasn't going to do something I was told to do, infact frequently.

Being up late, reading in the dark,

playing music all night

Bullied by other kids 

Ending  up in some form of confrontation or be the target of people with an agenda. 

Nothing's changed much :))))

We all have our intuition, some just are not aware of it, but when you know something about a person you cannot explain, hopefully my brief experiences will confirm it all for you. 

Feel free to book a consultation with me if this all sounds familiar, so I can help you develop and manage your skills.  It can be quite tough at times and often gets mistaken as other things.